Song of Solomon 6:4 “O my love, you are as beautiful as Tirzah, Lovely as Jerusalem, Awesome as an army with banners!”
When it comes to June 4, we find there are several excellent verses. For instance, there is Daniel 6:4. It says, “So the governors and satraps sought to find some charge against Daniel concerning the kingdom; but they could find no charge or fault, because he was faithful; nor was there any error or fault found in him.”
There is Acts 6:4.It says, “But we will give ourselves continually to prayer and to the ministry of the word.”
There is Ephesians 6:4.It says, “And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.”
The verse that we have decided, however, on this June 4 is a verse that is very special to my wife and me as it is our anniversary verse. On June 4, 1988, Donita and I were married and today concludes 36 years. We both would be quick to say without hesitation that we have not had a perfect marriage but speaking for myself it has been one incredible adventure filled with more blessings than I could have imagined and more blessings than I deserve.
Looking at our verse, we see a key component of a marriage relationship as the husband speaks words, yes, words that are compliments. It is worth noting what he is not saying here as he is not speaking words of complaints or criticism. He compliments her. Granted, his compliments seem strange to us, but quite frankly he has been very thoughtful in choosing the compliments. More than roses are red violets are blue, sugar is sweet and so are you, Solomon has thought carefully of ways to let his wife know how incredible she is. She is his love as his opening words are words of tenderness and assurance. Some versions say he called her “darling.”
He follows that by telling her she is beautiful. This word is so powerful to a wife as there is the daily battle of insecurity. And she is not just beautiful but beautiful as Tirzah. Tirzah was considered one of the most beautiful cities in the northern part of Israel and had served and would again serve as a royal city. For me, today, I would tell Donita she is as beautiful as Hong Kong at night for in all my travels I have never seen any city so beautiful.
He continues by telling her she is as lovely as Jerusalem. Solomon had made Jerusalem the envy of the world. He had built the temple for God, and he had built his palace. When the queen of Sheba arrived in Jerusalem, she was overwhelmed by his wisdom and the beauty of the buildings. His comparison of being as lovely as Jerusalem is a very high compliment.
And then he compares her to being as “awesome as an army with banners!” Here he compliments her abilities for an Army with banners is demonstrating they know what they are doing. It is an impressive sight to see a military parade as they march in formation. In other words, Solomon is so impressed by his wife and her abilities. We might pause to consider what he wrote in Proverbs 31 about the virtuous woman and her abilities to multi-task!
All this is to say that Song of Solomon 6:4 reveals a massive clue to a husband about what his wife wants/needs. Spoken compliments are essential. Compliment her! I purchased a ring and had the Hebrew words of Song of Solomon 6:4 engraved on the inside for my awesome, beautiful wife!
Continue Strong Choosing Compliments,
And remember to DATE the Word